Our Happiness – Our Responsibility

Coral Gables Counseling Center - Wednesday, April 17, 2024
By Emy Fernandez, MBA, Life Coach

When we look for our happiness, many of us look for it outside of ourselves.

We expect it to come from our significant other.
We expect it to come from our job or career.
We expect it to come from our kids.
We expect it to come from our friends.

But it’s not THEIR responsibility to make US happy.  That responsibility is OURS.

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If we look for happiness in others or in other things – we will ALWAYS be disappointed.

The happiness that comes from gifts from our significant other;
The happiness that comes from promotions at work;
The happiness that comes from good grades from our kids; and
The happiness that comes from sharing dinner or drinks with friends;
Are just dopamine hits from the moment.

Life is 50% good and 50% bad.

True, long-lasting happiness that can withstand the bad moments in our lives comes from within – not from the temporary dopamine hits.  And this is great news!

What??

Happiness is a feeling, and our feelings are always driven by our thoughts.  Since we have control over what we think, we CAN control our happiness despite life being 50/50.

We don’t have to depend on others; and
we don’t have to depend on things;
to create our own long-lasting happiness in OUR little corner of the world.

P.S. Reply to this email and let me know if you are constantly giving away control of your happiness to others.

QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

“Don’t give control of your happiness away to others or to things. One of the few things we do control is our happiness.SMILEY FACE