Boundaries

Coral Gables Counseling Center - Tuesday, November 16, 2021
By Emy Fernandez, MBA, Life Coach

 

Creating boundaries – or not creating them.

There is no right or wrong answer.  We’re all different.  The question is:

Do we need to create them?

Do we understand ourselves well enough to know whether including boundaries around our day is necessary?

Some of us are very good at knowing when our cup is comfortably full.  We are very good at saying NO.

And some of us are not.  We continue filling our cup without realizing it is now overflowing.  Some of us feel like we must do more for our spouses, we must do more for our significant others, we must do more for our kids, we must do more for our friends, we must do more in our careers.

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So, we overdo commitments at home, we overdo commitments with our friends, and we overdo commitments in our careers.

How do we know when our cup is comfortably full and when it’s not? How do we know if it’s time to create boundaries and when we have the capacity for more?

Take a look at your life. That is your gauge.  That is your temperature.  Pay attention.

Are you giving your life the same airtime as everyone and everything else?

If not, then it’s time to check-in.  Where are your boundaries?  Do you have any?  Do you need any?

Our boundaries are not the responsibility of our spouses; our significant others; our kids; our friends; our bosses.

Great news! Creating boundaries – or not creating them.  It’s our decision.  It’s our responsibility. We get to choose.