True Self-Love

Coral Gables Counseling Center - Wednesday, February 07, 2024
By Todd D. Giardina, PH. D

Yes, self love is gratitude journals, and bubble baths…face masks and lazy Saturdays. It’s also treat yourself days and hanging with the guys/gals.

But let’s give some attention to the less marketable, more important types of self love.


Self love is about not overextending yourself to please others. It is about setting aside time to chew and digest your food before running off to be all things to all people.

Self love looks like asking for help when you’re down, giving voice to your needs on the group chat as well as cheerleading others.

It is about dressing for yourself, for comfort as well as for looks.

Giving love to yourself includes changing that negative voice in your head and having more self compassion. Consider how far you’ve come and give that critical voice the boot!

Loving yourself means accepting and owning your “flaws,” letting your light shine. It doesn’t require filtering and editing to be more likable.

Self love means setting boundaries with family and coworkers if they make you feel bad about yourself.

Love for yourself means treating yourself to a drink, but also choosing to take a a break from substances if they bring you down.

Self love is about showing up for you, the way you would want a loving partner to show up.

In the end, self love brings on healthy, third-party love. It models for those around you what type of treatment you require and expect.


“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” – Rupi Kaur