Loving Me=Loving You

Coral Gables Counseling Center - Wednesday, February 10, 2021
By Lucia Fernandez Silveira, LMFT

Almost a year into the pandemic and those of us who are healthy and have survived it, are so very blessed. So many have passed and so many have lost loved ones.

I always feel the need to pause and reflect on those whose experience throughout this time has gone from difficult and stressful to devastating and unimaginable. And, always keep top of mind that despite our different experiences, we have respect for each of our stories.


hear with globe and hands

I have been counseling many throughout this time. I have seen the beautiful resilience of those with devastating losses and the pain that goes with it. I learn so much from them each time we meet.

The thing is, they come to therapy seeking counseling for them, not for me. Though I get so much from them, I need to show up with something of worth. Something that can help them heal, that can give them guidance.

The process in therapy is important and everyone brings different dynamics. But the one thing I know for sure is that everyone breathes easier when they have internal peace.

I believe peace is a spiritual experience. Not necessarily religious, but spiritual. With the concept that we are of body, mind, and spirit, I always attempt to accentuate the importance of us nurturing all three. I encourage us not to neglect any part of our being as it is in the integration of ourselves that we become the best version of ourselves.

Peace lives within us by choice. We need to recognize what takes away our internal peace, what we are doing that strips us of it, and what we need to let go of so we can make room for peace.

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Amid crisis, letting go of what is not in our control and focusing on what is, allows a place for peace to live within us.

Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves. In forgiving, we are letting go of what is hurting us to replace it with something that heals us…that gives us peace.

Compassion sets a tone of consideration towards others that free us from being absorbed by our own dilemmas and conflicts. It’s an outward vision. It’s taking inventory of the greater good rather than being self-absorbed and egocentric. Compassion sets us free from the internal dialogue of negative, intrusive, and repetitive thoughts. It sets us free! So many things to let go of! Compassion leads the way. It allows room for peace to slip in, taking the place of despair and anxiety.

Patience is a holy experience. When you are in a super frustrating experience, say “Holy Camoly!!” And let it go. Bring in patience, and patience will lead you to peace. That frustrating experience is NOT more important than your peace.

So when you are having an argument, think …” is it more important to be right or to have peace?”.

When in a traffic jam, is it more important to blast the horn and elevate your cortisol level and blood pressure or put on some nice music and breathe and enjoy the ride? Choose peace.

Create peace through
And letting go.

Take a moment at the beginning of your day to set the intention of peace through prayer, meditation, journaling, or simply breathing in peace…
And letting out peace.
The world needs you ….in ☮️ peace.

What a better way to love ourselves and others. On this Valentine’s Day in 2021 and forever, gift this to yourself and your loved ones.

️ peace out️


Loving me🧡loving you
There is nothing more important than my peace. ☮️ Lucia Fernandez Silveira