Things I Know for Sure at 60 – I Wish I’d Known at 30

Coral Gables Counseling Center - Wednesday, November 28, 2018
By Emy Fernandez, MBA, Life Coach

Life and Heath Coach

Tomorrow’s my birthday. In celebration, I thought I would share lessons I wish my younger self would’ve known 30 years ago.

1.   Don’t wait until tomorrow – to begin enjoying today.  
  • This one I heard from my grandmother a long time ago – I wish I had listened then.
2.   Take care of yourself first – so you can help others later. 

3.   Regardless of how bad something seems like today – tomorrow it will be better. 

4.   DO “sweat the small stuff” this will help you get them off your plate and make room for the “big stuff.” 

5.   If you’re present today – tomorrow you won’t feel like you missed anything.  

  • Yes – I’m talking to those of you on FB all the time enjoying someone else’s past instead of enjoying your present.

6.   Fill your jar with your big rocks first (important things) – then add the pebbles, sand and water (or the little things) this will ensure you have time for the important things in your life. 

  • I learned this in my MBA program 10 years ago regarding time management – I use this in my personal life daily.

7.   Do regular “brain dumps” to create bandwidth for things that matter.

8.   “Let go of Worry” 

  • I just learned this at 59 from one of my mentors, Carmen Marshall – now I practice this every night before I go to bed. This will allow you to sleep better and in the morning the worry just doesn’t seem as bad. Also, you’ll have the mindset to figure it out when you’ve rested.

9.   We’ll never reach a point where we know it all – leave room to continue learning regardless of age. 

10.   Bad decisions in the past can create growth in the future – as long as we learn from them. 

11.   “Eat your frog before noon.” By Brian Tracy but inspired by Mark Twain 

  • By doing the most difficult (or distasteful but necessary) tasks first thing during the day, the rest of your day will be much easier by comparison.
  • And, the most difficult task tends to be the one that moves the needle in your business, your job and/or your personal life. 
  • I learned this from my mentor – Carmen Marshall – in a mastermind program I took from her just 8 weeks ago.

12.   No one knows you better than your gut – listen to it.

13.   To live a full, happy and healthy life is to live life not in deprivation but in joy. 

14.   “Everything is figureoutable.” By Marie Forleo 

  • I learned this from another one of my mentors, Marie Forleo, just a couple of years ago.

And finally – last but not least:

15.   I believe we all have “our number” on the scale because all of us come in different shapes, sizes and from different cultures. Someone else’s 120 is not the same as my 120. We have found “our number” when we are at our “healthy” best. Health comes from “our choices” not from “our number.” It comes from the foods we choose to eat, the “movements” we choose to incorporate into our lives, and the relationships we choose to build.

So, from my 60 year old self to all of you 20, 30, 40 and 50 year olds out there – consider incorporating some of these lessons in your life now so that at 60 you can say,

“My younger self heard these lessons somewhere many years ago – and I’m so glad I did because they changed my life!”